The importance of saying goodbye

Saying a final goodbye to a loved one is never easy. But, according to grief specialists, it is an important step in the grieving process.

Grief is the internal response to loss. It is testament to the love, to the fondness or respect you had for a person, and if it’s not expressed in some way; if we simply pack up our unmourned grief, we carry it into our future.

All our significant life events are shared with others. Birthdays and weddings provide an opportunity to come together and share. A funeral does the same; it allows those who knew us to show that our life mattered to them.

Funerals aren’t necessarily about religion. They are a way of celebrating the life of a loved one; a meaningful and respectful way to say goodbye. The irony of funerals is that they honour life. There are so many rituals and values in funerals that have meant so much for so long and have helped in the grieving process. Funerals are just as important for those left behind as they are for the loved one we’re saying goodbye to.

Grief specialists tell us the number of families choosing not to have a funeral service has led to an increase in unresolved grief, sometimes 10 years after the death of a loved one. But planning a funeral can be a very difficult and emotional task.

A positive way of putting affairs in order before the need arises, is to plan ahead. Have a discussion with your loved ones, so their wishes are known. And importantly, so that their life story is known. Every story deserves to be told. It’s what makes us unique.

The AFDA’s “Your Story” booklet will help. Download it HERE and start the conversation today.

Planning ahead gives you time to make decisions about their farewell knowing the funeral will reflect their expressed wishes, giving you both peace of mind along with lessening the emotional stress on your family.

By pre-paying a funeral plan you not only have the benefit of fixed prices at present day rates, but also of knowing that the financial burden has been eased. The experienced staff at Bowra & O’Dea can arrange to meet with you to discuss your options, answer your questions and provide an obligation free quote.

To find out more or book an appointment, call 9231 5199 (24 hours a day).